Tears of the Silenced: A True Crime and an American Tragedy; Severe Child Abuse and Leaving the Amish by Misty Griffin

Tears of the Silenced: A True Crime and an American Tragedy; Severe Child Abuse and Leaving the Amish

Based on the true story of a Non-Amish family who dressed and lived like the Amish. The two daughters were severely abused and held prisoner until the oldest was almost 19 years old. After the oldest daughter tried to escape the girls were taken to an Amish community where a new nightmare began.In this courageous account the author draws the reader into her terrifying life...

Title:Tears of the Silenced: A True Crime and an American Tragedy; Severe Child Abuse and Leaving the Amish
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Tears of the Silenced: A True Crime and an American Tragedy; Severe Child Abuse and Leaving the Amish Reviews

  • Misty Griffin

    Breaking the silence on Amish sexual abuse. My memoir about leaving the Amish

  • John

    I am not sure whether to consider this a novel based on several actual abuse cases, or if its an autobiographical account with lavishly embellished events created in the authors mind to demonize and project her past abuse onto the Amish with impunity because the Amish are not very likely to dispute her story. The public is not very likely to actually demand facts but far too many will read it and take it at face value with out question

    I tend to lean towards the latter. I was born and raised Swar

    I am not sure whether to consider this a novel based on several actual abuse cases, or if its an autobiographical account with lavishly embellished events created in the authors mind to demonize and project her past abuse onto the Amish with impunity because the Amish are not very likely to dispute her story. The public is not very likely to actually demand facts but far too many will read it and take it at face value with out question

    I tend to lean towards the latter. I was born and raised Swartzentruber Amish and one thing is for certain. This is NOT a true story as the author implies. There are far too many discrepancies for it to be even remotely legit in that aspect and for me to take many of her accusations serious. She has definitely suffered abuse and I am sorry she had to endure that but it doesn’t give her the right to fabricate an account and claim it to be true. I have since left the Amish but will always acknowledge the good of the community.

    The Swartzentrubers do not accept and raise any children from an outside family for one. They do not ‘elect’ Bishops, they are chosen by ‘lot’. There is no ‘engagement’ period in the Swartzentrubers as she suggests, and the list goes on. Hexing buggy wheels so they cant move and have to walk to church, using dark magic to open cupboards are claims so far fetched, its simply not believable to a person with any degree of logic, especially for someone that has any real knowledge of the Amish. In her narrative she was told to choose an ‘Amish’ name and then uses names like ‘Phyllis’ for her Amish characters. I never heard of an Amish person with that name, even in the more progressive groups. I mean I get it that she is trying to paint a picture to put the Amish in a bad light but she is so over the top and embellishes so badly it gets almost laughable at times. One thing I can agree with her on is the romance novels written about the Amish by non Amish authors who project their own idealistic Puritanical ideas into them try and pass them off as fact, are giving the general public a false sense of reality about Amish life.

    There are social and sexual deviants within the Amish as in any group. There is a need for awareness within the Amish but writing blatant sensationalism will not help that at all. As a matter of fact, I am not sure which disadvantages the abused within the Amish more, the Amish fiction that paints it as a perfect Puritanical life or this one that sensationalizes it into the fiction category and makes it totally unbelievable.

    The book is rather drawn out and repetitive and somewhat poorly edited. Although I am sure if she reduced it to mere fact and used a credible, mainstream publisher and left the fiction out, it would not have made enough of a story to sell. Adding the Amish element to it definitely made it more sellable and shocking. Its somewhat choppy and almost seems like it was written in parts by different personas. I found it interesting that while she was in the first section of the book where she describes ‘mama’ and Brian and all the Sadistic abuse they subjected her to, she then quoted Octave Mirbeau. I would think someone writing a book under the pretense of being an advocate for abused children would want to refrain from even mentioning Mirbeau

    It is difficult to believe every adult in her life was such a monster. Her plotline and events are so sketchy and vague and With the blatant discrepancies in the way she describes some things that I know because of the way I was raised, to be untrue, I really don’t know what, if anything she says, to believe. There are only several Swartzentruber settlements in Minnesota and I have uncles and cousins in each one. No one there has ever heard of her claims and with good reason. It never happened

  • Spider the Doof Warrior

    Dammit. It did not save my review! That's so annoying. I'll have to write it all over again. I swear if I have to write one more thing over again I will turn into something.

    Anyway, this book is painful to read. It's like trying to watch Slumdog Millionaire which I could not even handle because the child abuse would not end. I was like if one more child gets beaten and molested in this book... It made me want to jump into the book and just shoot her so-called parents who beat her endless and her

    Dammit. It did not save my review! That's so annoying. I'll have to write it all over again. I swear if I have to write one more thing over again I will turn into something.

    Anyway, this book is painful to read. It's like trying to watch Slumdog Millionaire which I could not even handle because the child abuse would not end. I was like if one more child gets beaten and molested in this book... It made me want to jump into the book and just shoot her so-called parents who beat her endless and her mother let her step father molest and beat both sisters and force them into a pseudoAmish cult.

    Then when they join a real group of Amish you think, oh, things will get better! Amish people are so pure and innocent right? So virtuous.

    But then you would be WRONG! Because there is molestation and all kinds of problems in the Amish community. But if a person molests a child they get put in the Bann for six weeks. Then the victim is forced to forgive them. Never mind THAT IT HAPPENS OVER AND OVER AGAIN!

    But if you're gay you'd be kicked out. But get molested and don't forgive and YOU'RE TREATED LIKE YOU COMMITTED A CRIME! They won't even get the cops involved. It's horrible.

    So, Misty stood up and called the cops on a man who was raping his kids, tried to rape her and then was also poisoning his wife. But she was treated like the bad guy for involving outsiders.

    I really hope that her so-called parents were punished somehow because they were not only abusing these kids but an elderly woman and a mentally ill woman!

  • Kymberli Ward

    I give up. If this author had an horrific childhood, she has my deepest sympathies. However, this book is not only dreadful, but completely unbelievable. "Let me count the ways ..."

    1. Her "family" was not Amish. That she would blame that community for her trauma(s) is ridiculous and unsupported by any kind of fact. I'm sure there are cases of child abuse in Amish communities; just as there are vile cases in every strata of society. How did she end up in an Amish community anyway? To my knowledge

    I give up. If this author had an horrific childhood, she has my deepest sympathies. However, this book is not only dreadful, but completely unbelievable. "Let me count the ways ..."

    1. Her "family" was not Amish. That she would blame that community for her trauma(s) is ridiculous and unsupported by any kind of fact. I'm sure there are cases of child abuse in Amish communities; just as there are vile cases in every strata of society. How did she end up in an Amish community anyway? To my knowledge, taking in outside young people is something that is not part of that culture. I could certainly be wrong, but I don't think so.

    2. Did ANYONE edit this book? The spelling, grammar, word usage, and punctuation were so bad, I had to stop mentally correcting every sentence. That was hard, as I teach remedial English and EFL.

    3. As another stated, I get it. The author is "tiny." How many times does the reader need to hear that? She's also perfect ... and beautiful ("pretty," in her words). I was almost nauseated by her "sweetness," not to mention her frequently commented on "kind eyes," etc. What is this? The canonization of Misty (or Emma)?

    4. With the lack of education the author refers to, how is it she was asked to write a column for a community newsletter? Her "wisdom" is at best, difficult to swallow. At the least, it reads as completely bogus.

    5. Baptism? For an outsider, and a teenager, after a short span of time? Really?

    And seriously? Every adult in her life is an abuser (or a "boy" who is after her)? The women are verbally and emotionally vicious (but for mommy-dearest, who, if a real person, is indeed monstrous), but every man is portrayed as an abusive monster. Yet we are to believe our hero is a magnet for babies, animals, children, ad nauseam, and escapes all of this (virtually) unscathed.

    I simply do not believe this book is nonfiction. At page 300+, I finally deleted it. The author needs help, no doubt, and I hope she gets it. But to pass this tripe off as a "true" book is appalling. Sorry.

  • Jes Caruss

    What a crock of shite! For someone who "doesn't remember things well" because they fell head first into the mouth of a Dane at 4 and had suffered severe head injuries (don't even get me started on that flat out lie!) she sure remembers a lot, and in minute and graphic detail! And the claims of the FBI coming in and taking her from her mom and dad because they had a warrant for kidnapping, yet the parents weren't arrested? Lady, I want what ever it is that you've be

    What a crock of shite! For someone who "doesn't remember things well" because they fell head first into the mouth of a Dane at 4 and had suffered severe head injuries (don't even get me started on that flat out lie!) she sure remembers a lot, and in minute and graphic detail! And the claims of the FBI coming in and taking her from her mom and dad because they had a warrant for kidnapping, yet the parents weren't arrested? Lady, I want what ever it is that you've been smoking!

    As someone who is a survivor of childhood abuse/sexual abuse, domestic violence who also suffers a TBI from being hit head on by a drunk driver, I have PTSD, I have borderline personality disorder stemming from the abuse, I am appalled at this clear attempt to exploit what true victims live through!

    She may have suffered some type of abuse, but this "true story" is a huge pile of bullshit! This is the only time I've ever said this, but SHAME ON YOU! I hope you rot in hell!

  • Cathi Deal

    For years now we have romanticized the Amish as a group of people who have gone back to the basics in the most complete sense. That view almost precludes us from taking an in-depth look at what they are truly like, and some of the novels about Amish life hints at the dark side but fail to reveal what may be the actual truth. Over the last few years, differing views have been shown on television, and they caused me to choose Misty's book.

    It is almost implausible that not one of the gov

    For years now we have romanticized the Amish as a group of people who have gone back to the basics in the most complete sense. That view almost precludes us from taking an in-depth look at what they are truly like, and some of the novels about Amish life hints at the dark side but fail to reveal what may be the actual truth. Over the last few years, differing views have been shown on television, and they caused me to choose Misty's book.

    It is almost implausible that not one of the government entities that were sending her mother checks over the years ever picked up on what these young children were going through, and criminal that Brian's mother and Misty's aunt had to live in that situation. That over twenty years should go by is just unthinkable! That it took a wolf to warn her and a parolee to save her is an interesting counter and yet a shame.

    Misty's story is a tribute to the human spirit, but that the family that brought this to a culmination was able to flee to Canada is disgusting. Corporal punishment that is hidden by long skirts, attempted murder, rape and molestation should not be subject to the borders of another country. Thank God for the family that took her in and helped her escape that life! I hope Misty continues wIth her plans for a foundation to help others in this situation, because it appears that the government and law enforcement doesn't do what they should. This should be required reading for youth and social workers living near communities such as this. Welfare organizations should. Have to see and to interact with children ho are in Misty's situation. That she could have fallen through as many cracks as she did is criminal. That she was unable to help her aunt is worse. Had even one person done their job, this wouldn't have happened. Sad!


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